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Relationships
RELATIONSHIP COACHING
MEDIATION
COUPLES COUNSELLING
Focussed support for you and another person, whether partners, lovers, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours…
However you relate, I do my best to support YOU BOTH in whatever way you need, for the time we work together – usually in sessions of 1.5 or 2 hours.
Sometimes just a single session is enough, but more often a series of 5 or more. Prices and packages outlined below.
I honestly believe that EVERY RELATIONSHIP would benefit from this kind of support, but if you’re not sure, then check out the why, what and how below.
Or, if you’re ready to dive in, then contact me.
What I can support you with
If you’re facing challenges or want to grow in any of these areas,
flip it to see some of the many ways that I could help you with it
Communication
- Explore your feelings, needs, values & communicate them effectively
- Express requests & limits: Ask for what you want; say ‘No’ to what you don’t with courage, clarity & care
- Replace connection blocking habits with empathic listening skills
- Navigate difficult conversations & address issues in a calm, connected & creative way
- Give & receive feedback that is both productive & connecting
Authentic Connection & Relating
- Transform harmful relational patterns, like ‘the Blame Game’, ‘Trigger ping-pong’, People-pleasing, Codependency, Anxious-Avoidant loops etc.
- See the humanity in others, even if their opinions or background differ greatly from yours
- Negotiate consent & boundaries (with or without physical touch)
- Embrace “conflicting” needs, so you can have intimacy & space; security & freedom; healthy dependence & independence…
Tension & Conflict
- Engage with inner & outer tension in peaceful & productive ways
- Embrace conflict as an opportunity for deeper understanding, trust and connection.
- Identify & transform your default responses to intensity or conflict; whether its Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn!
- Co-create a ‘menu’ of options for effectively responding to any kind of tension
- Transform judgemental thinking, blame, reactivity & anger
- Reconciliation: Dissolve enemy images & heal wounds from the past
Intimacy & Sexuality
- Transform blocks from societal taboos, personal inhibitions, habits, confusions, assumptions & shoulds
- Initiate & engage in vulnerable & transformative conversations about intimacy & sex
- Uncover unidentified needs & longings to help find new strategies to fulfil them
- Navigate the dynamics of giving & receiving; who is doing & who it is for?
- Communicating during intimacy & sex - pauses to self-connect; extra care & sensitivity with requests & feedback; open Vs closed questions etc…
Relationship Patterns
- Uncover & transform hidden dynamics, habitual responses, stuck patterns & limiting beliefs
- Free yourselves from compulsive behaviours and anxious-avoidance dynamics
- Transform patterns of hide & seek; attack & defend; demand & rebel; anger & shame
- Release obligation, fear & guilt to access the guidance of your own inner wisdom
- Build healthier boundaries & cultivate trust, connection & mutual respect in relationships
Reactivity & Difficult Emotions
- Integrate supportive practices for before, during & after being triggered
- Find new pathways to digest intense emotions, like overwhelm, anger, shame, depression & jealousy
- Respond effectively when others react or express themselves with intensity
- Navigate the zones of comfort, panic & strategic discomfort to embrace challenge & growth
- Tools for self and co-regulation
You can gain
Relationships who use my support, often report:
How we work together
Either or both of you can start by scheduling a free 15 minute discovery call to meet me, ask questions & feel into whether you’d like to work with me, while I get a sense of how I can support you.
You decide if you’d like to schedule just one or a pack of sessions, then we find times that work for us all.
For each session, you are welcome to come exactly as you are: you don’t need to prepare anything, do anything, or be anything
- We follow your agenda, not mine. We work as a team, for YOU BOTH
- This is your chance to ‘slow down’, tune in with intention, & face your relationship’s challenges with support, openness & curiosity
- We focus on clarifying & understanding what really matters to you both, what you truly long for & the changes you wish to make
- Then, identify practical steps to fulfil those longings & make those changes
- We access inner wisdom & emotional intelligence, along with supportive presence & a huge collection of resources & skills to transform the challenges you face
- We can include support in negotiating consent and boundaries, with or without physical touch.
- I hold everything in strict confidentiality, so you feel safe to share as much as YOU want
My toolkit
Each relationship brings its unique history, situation, dynamics and intentions.
To meet you where you are and fully support your growth, I draw upon a variety of modalities
(Hover over any for an introduction)
Each relationship brings its unique history, situation, dynamics and intentions.
To meet you where you are and fully support your growth, I draw upon a variety of modalities
(Tap any for an introduction)
Attachment Theory
A psychological & evolutionary framework concerning the relationships between humans. It explains how our early relationships result in us developing certain attachment styles: secure & insecure (anxious, avoidant..) which shape our emotional bonds & behaviours.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
NVC is both a collection of principles that support the development of a consciousness based on universal human values and needs as well as a practical, learnable process that helps people connect more deeply with themselves and others.
Authentic Relating
A practice that promotes deeper, more genuine connections by encouraging honesty, empathy, and active listening. It helps people express their true selves, understand others' perspectives, and create meaningful interactions.
The Wheel of Consent
A model to clarify dynamics of giving and receiving; to explore desires & limits; and to negotiate agreements. It is based on, but not requiring, exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic and the ‘gift’ aspect — who it is for.
And many more…
Pricing
I want to make these sessions accessible and sustainable, i.e. available to everyone who would benefit, regardless of income, and, at the same time, try to sustain myself financially.
So, I offer them at prices on a sliding scale:
- I invite you to contribute as generously as you are able, based on your own resources, an awareness of my needs, and the value received.
- Paying the higher end supports me to continue making this work available to those who can afford less.
- If the lower end is more than you can afford, or if you feel unclear about this, please contact me
Payments are made in advance and are non-refundable.
1.5 hours
2 hours
6 hour pack
eg: 3 x 2 hours, or 4 x 1.5 hours
12 hour pack
eg: 6 x 2 hours, or 8 x 1.5 hoursTestimonials
"Donal is an exceptional facilitator. His teachings have shifted my perspective on handling all types of relationships, helping me become aware of my needs and allowing me to communicate with others with more compassion and empathy."
"This session of your’s flipped a switch in me. It has embedded in my whole experience of life. I really noticed that I'm relating from a different place, and having a lot more space and expectations towards others, but also towards myself."
"I felt very nourished and hopeful… I loved that we have collected 'good' practices… I'm looking forward to brainstorm with my partner and create ideas/rituals of what could help when triggered (or not help!).
The topic in itself can be quite challenging and yet you have been able to transmit it in a very light and hopeful way."
"Donal introduced us in the most gentle and caring way to techniques that someone can keep forever as a tool for deeper self connection and self reflection. I personally had quite a few deep emotional moments of self realization.
It brought me much much joy, depth and connection …it completely blew my mind!"
Let's talk
Are you ready to make your relationship more wonderful?
Schedule a free 15 minute discovery call now to meet me, ask questions and feel into whether you’d like to work with me.